BE ACCESSIBLE. Teens often blurt things out or want to talk at strange or inconvenient times. Be ready to listen anytime, anywhere.
USE QUESTIONS SPARINGLY. Resist the urge to know EVERYTHING your teen is thinking or planning. Show some trust; you would expect the same.
TRY NOT TO BE DEFENSIVE. When they make generalizations or critical remarks, don`t take them personally. They are opportunities for discussion.
GIVE STRAIGHT FORWARD ADVICE OR FEEDBACK ON IMPORTANT ISSUES such as sex, drinking and drugs, but don`t keep repeating it. They need to hear you and they do hear you, even if they pretend indifference.
TALK ABOUT YOURSELF SOMETIMES INSTEAD OF THE TEEN. They hate to be the only topic under discussion. Tell them about your own teen memories and mistakes.
SET UP AND USE FAMILY MEETINGS TO FULL ADVANTAGE. Get input from each person on rules, curfews, etc. as well as on the consequences of breaking rules. Sign agreements, try them out; modify as needed.
SHOW INTIMACY. Teens are still kids inside; they need the warm feelings of belonging that come from good touches and hugs.
GIVE LOTS OF PRAISE AND POSITIVE FEEDBACK. Teens need to hear the "good stuff" just like the rest of us. They need to know you love them for who they are inside, as well as what they can do.
GIVE THEM RESPONSIBILITIES WITH EVERY PRIVILEGE; that`s real life.
TEACH THEM TO MAKE DECISIONS and make them accept the consequences of each choice they make.
TEACH THEM TO DEAL WITH INFORMATION. Teach them to think critically about what they see or hear, as well as how to sort out and prioritize information.
TAKE TIME TO RELAX AND HAVE FUN. Teens need to learn positive ways to manage stress; enjoying each other will build lifetime relationships.
MAKE THEM EARN WHAT THEY WANT, and know the difference between wants and needs. Instant gratification does not teach life skills.